Holy Cow, Thank You All So Much!!

We have been blown away by the amount of support that you all have shown us these past few days! From the beginning we have been very open about our struggles with infertility. Probably a little too open, I’ve been known to tell people all about our story within minutes of meeting them! The amazing thing about that though is we truly feel like we are not going through this alone. We’ve been flooded with texts and emails, and some of our friends have even started a prayer schedule so that we would have prayer every hour tonight and tomorrow morning! Wow, we really are just so humbled and speechless by how amazing you all are. Thank you so much for caring about us and lifting up our desires to be able to get pregnant! You all are amazing and we are so encouraged by you all! 

We are hanging out in Dallas tonight, ready to go in for my egg retrieval tomorrow morning! We will be getting there at 6:45 am, and the actual retrieval will happen at 7:30. We would love prayer that the retrieval would go well with no complications, and that they would be able to retrieve the exact amount of quality mature eggs that we need! One of the most stressful things for us about this whole process has been deciding how many eggs we will allow the doctors to fertilize. It's common to have quite a few eggs at retrieval, and most of the time all mature eggs get fertilized. If you then get pregnant on the first attempt you are faced with the tough decision of what to do with the extra embryos. They can be frozen to implant later, or they can be destroyed, donated to science, or adopted by other couples. We have made the decision that every egg that gets fertilized will eventually be implanted, as we weren't comfortable with any of the other options. The hard part is that every couple is different as far as how many embryos it takes to achieve a successful pregnancy, since not all embryos will grow at all, or if they do grow initially there is still only a 50% chance that they will result in a pregnancy once implanted. If we pick too small of a number, we drastically reduce our chances of it working at all if we end up being one of those couples who have a lot of failed attempts, but if we choose too high of a number and more than average “take”, we are essentially saying we are committing to eventually having that many kids. So needless to say its been a tough decision. We feel confident that even in all of this, God is ultimately in control and He is the one who breathes life into all living things, and in the end we will end up with exactly the number of children He has for us! 

Thanks again for your prayers, we will continue to keep you all posted!

We Need You All!

Most of you know that we have been trying to start a family for many years. We’ve been trying to get pregnant for over seven years now, and trying to adopt internationally for three years, neither of which have worked out so far. We are still in the process of trying to adopt from Uganda, but since things have slowed down to a snails pace with the Ugandan adoption process our agency has been advising us to “pursue other options”, which is never a good sign. Basically the country of Uganda is moving away from international adoption right now, which obviously stinks for us. We are planning to stay on the Uganda waiting list for as long as it takes, unless the country closes the doors to international adoption completely, but while we wait we decided to do one more big push to try and get pregnant. So right now we are actually in the middle of the in-vetro process, and we decided that we need the prayers of our friends and family now more than ever. I decided to get back to blogging in an effort to get as many people praying for us these next few weeks as possible!

Over the past seven years, we have been to six fertility specialists, none of whom were ever able to tell us why we couldn’t get pregnant. We have tried everything other than in-vetro, which we were holding off on for several reasons. Mostly because there are certain aspects of the in-vetro process that we didn’t feel completely comfortable with, and also because we didn’t know what was causing our infertility so there was no way to know if in-vetro would even be likely to work for us. Through a friend, we heard about a doctor in Dallas (a 3 hour drive from Norman) who is amazing. We decided to give him a try, and within a few months he found several things that could potentially be contributing to our infertility, and based on what he found he strongly recommended in-vetro as our best option. He also said based on what he found that its sort of now or never for us, so we needed to get started ASAP. He also was willing to work with us on our ethical concerns, and we are able to pick the maximum number of eggs we would like them to fertilize so that we don’t end up with a bunch of extra embryos at the end that we don’t know what to do with. Win. So here we are, driving to Dallas 2 or 3 times a week and doing 4 shots in my belly every day getting ready to do this. Yikes. 

So here is what the next few weeks is going to look like, and what you can specifically be praying for when you think of us!

This week: Continuing daily injections and driving to Dallas every other day to monitor my follicles. Pray for endurance, it’s been a long month already and we are tired of all the driving and multiple daily shots.

End of this week: Egg retrieval- a small surgery where they remove all the eggs they have been getting me to produce. That same day, they will fertilize the best eggs with Jeremy’s sperm and watch for 3-5 days to see how many of them become embryos. Pray that the retrieval goes well, and that the exact number of embryos form that the Lord would have for us!

Beginning of next week: Egg Transfer- they will put 2 of the embryos back in and we will wait to see if either of them “take”. If we have more than 2 embryos, the rest will be frozen for us to use at a later date. We plan to implant all embryos eventually. Pray that my body is able to support one or both of the embryos and that we are able to get pregnant!

The following week: I will start having blood tests every 3-4 days to see if we are pregnant, and if the levels continue to rise as they should. If the tests are positive, we aren’t really in the clear yet, that’s why they have to do multiple tests every few days. Pray for the tests to be positive, and for my levels to continue to raise as they should, resulting in a successful pregnancy!

And throughout the whole process, please pray for our hearts. Pray that we will continue to trust in the goodness of our God and Father. Pray that we are able to come to him with the deepest desires of our hearts with fervency and passion, holding nothing back, knowing that He is able to bless us with a baby if He wills, but at the same time that even if He doesn’t allow us to get pregnant we can still say with confidence and truly believe that He is good and He is for us! 

Thanks friends, we love you all and we will continue to keep you all posted here on the blog over the next few weeks!! Thanks for your prayers!!!!!

Love the Hagers